Updated: 6/8/06; 8:13:53 PM.

Friday, May 13, 2005

    After further thought and detailed discussion, I think it would be best to explain myself a little further about my thoughts on friendship, podcasting, communication and my own bad manners. I was trying to pack a number of ideas into the original post on the Gifts of Podcasting which included my visits with my New York friends, how remarkable the world of podcasting is, how I thought it might be a help for me and my communication difficulties and my current strong appreciation for the delicate nature of life.

First: I dumped the original post with a more complete flow to it by accident and tried (in a hurry) to replace it and ended up with a lame sketch of it.

Second: I didn't give proper acknowledgment to how remarkable it was to see my friends. This fact should not be overlooked as it pairs with my comment about the importance of friendship and the fact that we may only have this day to appreciate them.

Third: In discussing it with Cindy, I realized that I was vague and incorrect in my comments about getting to know someone from their podcast. Many people can assume a persona, wear a mask or just show the tip of the iceberg as it were when in public or performing. I tend to forget that podcasting is primarily entertainment and that people don't always bring their complexities with them in front of the mic. You'd think with my experiences in show biz I'd get that concept. I do feel that there are some podcasts that are a little more unguarded and vulnerable than others; perhaps I'm fooling myself.
    The comments I made concerning listening to people before I speak to them has to do with my tendency to dominate conversations sometimes. I think that has to do with some need I have to be "More Than" rather than "Less Than" in a conversation. I have always had a problem about being content with who I am and I tend to try to "top" people in conversations. Bad Habit.
    I've worked on these character defects over the years but fall into old behavior from time to time. One exercise is to actively put energy towards the person talking, not only giving your full attention but actively encouraging them to continue. As a chronic interrupter, I actually used to speak to my sister Leila on the phone with a pencil between my teeth to allow her to complete her sentences. I tend to drift mentally and have also used the act of visualizing each word written out to increase comprehension. I'm saying that this is my problem and I had an idea that listening to a podcast was a great way to hear what someone is saying because I can't possibly interrupt them!
    SO... perhaps I can't get to really know someone through listening to their podcast. I sure don't know Bob Dylan from listening to "All Along The Watchtower". I can get a sense of them though; through art, poetry, music and maybe even podcasting. My initial comments were not clear. Maybe this will help, maybe it's made more of a mess...

Oh and another thing: my friend Dave Taylor from Boston felt that I gave our friend Charlie C. (the old lead singer in the band they were in that I worked for) more recognition than I gave him. I'm sorry for that. Singers always seem to get the press but guitar players get more Christmas cards... you know what I mean? Dave was very kind to my brother Sam a thousand years ago in Boston and I'll never forget that. This brings me to the last point:

Fourth: The delicate nature of friendship; I hope that everyone that reads this who is my friend knows that as goofy as I am, I so much value what we have, what we've shared and hope that we have another 24 hours together. I don't want to go another day without saying thank you for your friendship, for accepting me for who and what I am and allowing me into your lives again and again. I am the lucky one; I have been blessed with some truly remarkable friends who have been there for me in good times and bad. The past month qualifies as being pretty lousy but my friends have been there for me. I pray that I will be there for you in your time of need. Without friends, this life is a hollow chamber crammed with material things that can't fill the void. Friends are a commitment, it's a two way street. I want to publicly thank Abraham Laboriel Sr. for teaching me this in a dark moment many years ago on the road, when I really needed a friend. It's a lesson I carry with me everyday.






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It feels like it was just before I left for this trip...perhaps I was all along, but I've never, EVER had a sense of how disjointed I've been until the past few weeks. Perhaps it is a result of the family based turmoil I've been through, but I'm concerned that it's been going on a lot longer. Will those who have known me for a while please confirm or deny this fact? You don't need to be nice...

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Jeez, is it Friday the 13th or something? This is what happens when you leave your mac in sleep mode for days on end and then fall asleep yourself... though the link to the .mp3 file is recorded in the Radio Userland history, it didn't make the post or point you where you need to go... yesterday I also had a looooong post written during my dinner break that vanished when I randomly spazzzed out on my track pad and touched a link...poof! Goodbye! Unfortunately, my blogging software was made for people who know what they are doing, unlike myself... though some form of "safe" editing mode in the browser mode and a spell checker would be grand...

A big appreciative thank you to Cindy for pointing out the error of my posting ways...

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An experiment in mobile podcasting for me as we roll down the 95 to Hot-lanta.

Intro
Bus description
my story? yikes...
(underscore: Evelyn Evans- Tumbling Tumbleweeds)
school
first roadie work
the kid stops playing
Playboy Jazz Festival
song- Pat Travers- Life In London (for MB)
move to Fantasy Island
Cartage
Hit the road, Jacques...
fly right, straighten up if you can
Born at the Right Time
song-"like rain"- The Nils Lofgren Band
Tips- stay out of dark alleys (untill load out)
The Five Rules of Defensive Driving
Listen and learn
bub bye
song-"Rocket In My Pocket"- NRBQ

Ok, so you may know the drill... click on the little speaker thingy in the upper right corner of this post to listen to the podcast or option/right click on it to download or just click here.
You really should be using a podcasting client like IpodderX or Ipodder though and using the RSS feed to automatically download it...


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